This morning I walked into my classroom holding a bagel with cream cheese, totally normal. A coworker loudly asked “Tierra how do you stay so skinny?” With a mouthful of bagel I replied “I just do.”
So you’re probably thinking “so what, that’s a compliment” but I disagree. Would you go up to someone overweight and ask them “hey, how do you stay so fat?” You wouldn’t because that would be rude, right? But how is fat any different than skinny?
All my life I’ve been the skinny one and all my life I have hated it. Being skinny doesn’t feel beautiful to me; I feel self-conscious, the same way an overweight person might. I feel like I have to cover up certain parts of my body because they’re like sticks to me. I’ve always been self-conscious of my height and weight.
Now you’re probably thinking “how is she complaining, being skinny isn’t the same as being overweight.” You’re wrong. For years my doctor has been telling me, for my exact age and height (I’ve been 5’9.5″ for a few years), I’m underweight. Being underweight means that I’m not healthy. It means I’m constantly getting sick, I’m tired, and could lead to osteoporosis. Being underweight could even cause fertility problems, which is scary for me to think about.
I guess what I’m trying to say (rant) is that you don’t know what people are going through. If it was up to me, I wouldn’t weight what I do, but maybe 10-15 pounds more. I’m keeping my body healthy and trying to gain healthy weight (muscle mass) instead of packing pounds on with cheeseburgers. It’s hard to gain weight and not a topic everyone talks about because everyone with weight problems are trying to lose pounds, not gain them.
Be kind to others and think about the way your words might affect someone. ❤